Projecting not shouting

Quiet is the name of Susan Cain’s seminal book on introverts.  Anyone who identifies as an introvert has inevitably been asked “why are you so quiet?” at some (in reality probably many) points in their life.  Introverts think before speaking, so don’t just say whatever is in their head, often hesitating to say anything at […]

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Speaking up

I often hear from friends and colleagues of pointless meetings, uninspiring leaders and frustrating relationships (something I’ve blogged about before).  I believe they tell me about these things because they know of my love of governance and especially Roberts Rules of Order in running an effective meeting. Plus public speaking is a passion and now […]

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Slowing down

A typical Toastmasters speech is between five and seven minutes long.  When I first started out in Toastmasters, I would write around 800 words and delivering this length of speech would take around six minutes.  Now, if I write more than 700 words for a speech, I’m in serious danger of going over the time […]

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Bragging…the introverted way

I’ve had many roles in not-for-profit organisations, including national president (chair); leading a board of volunteers from across the county.  Although I’m not exactly reticent about my love for these organisations, I don’t shout about the achievement of being National President of JCI as much as I probably should.  The more I come into contact […]

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What’s in a name?

When thinking about how I should describe myself in my new business, I went through a lot of possibilities.  Should I term myself a Public Speaking Trainer or Confident Communication Coach?  What do these titles actually mean and potentially say about what I do? Here are some of the things I considered: Trainer – I’ve […]

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Memory skills : skills memory

Just before I started to learn the piano in 2018 (a life-long goal), I picked up my flute for the first time in more than 15 years to try to remind myself how to read music.  I found that the ability to play some pieces came back far quicker than I had anticipated.  Knowing how […]

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What they say is true…that doesn’t make it easy

“If you wait for perfect time to do something, you’ll never do it – just start“. “Failure is not a bad thing – the only mistake is not learning from it”. “Do something that you love and are passionate about”. These are pieces of advice I’ve heard over and over in respect of new ventures, […]

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Subtle soft skills

In my time as a member of voluntary organisations, I’ve learnt a lot.  Some of those things are more tangible than others.  Public speaking, debating, chairing meetings, facilitating workshops and writing blogs are amongst those skills which I can readily identify and have put into practice in my career in various ways.  But there are […]

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Asking for Help

I have no problem when connections ask me for help.  I enjoy helping people and am generally happy to help others.  It’s a big part of leadership.  This is something I recognise and embrace when I have formal roles.  Humility is an essential trait in good leaders – realising that just because you’re the leader […]

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Communication Congruence

If you’ve ever done some kind of communication training, you’ve probably heard some discourse on the relative importance of the content of what you say, how you say it (tone of voice) and what your appearance conveys (facial expression and body language). You may have seen this chart: This is based on research by Professor […]

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