Authentic evolution

I’ve said in the past that I am a totally different person from the one I was 15 years ago.  Others have noticed this too. Those who met me back then came across an extremely quiet individual.  Someone who hardly ever spoke up in meetings.  A person unsure how she could contribute to a team.  […]

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Choosing your feedback

Feedback is one of the most valuable resources we have in developing.  Learning how to use it wisely is a skill in itself.  Feedback is after all only one person’s opinion and one person’s opinion may not be representative.  Accepting that you’ll never please everyone is an important lesson in not driving yourself crazy with […]

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Leaving your comfort zone (in a safe way)

Both introverts and extroverts have comfort zones, they’re just different.  When introverts are asked to leave their comfort zone, it is to do something that comes more naturally to extroverts; for example attending large, crowded, noisy networking events.  Similarly yet conversely, extroverts probably find it difficult to sit still and concentrate in detailed meetings for […]

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Projecting not shouting

Quiet is the name of Susan Cain’s seminal book on introverts.  Anyone who identifies as an introvert has inevitably been asked “why are you so quiet?” at some (in reality probably many) points in their life.  Introverts think before speaking, so don’t just say whatever is in their head, often hesitating to say anything at […]

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Speaking up

I often hear from friends and colleagues of pointless meetings, uninspiring leaders and frustrating relationships (something I’ve blogged about before).  I believe they tell me about these things because they know of my love of governance and especially Roberts Rules of Order in running an effective meeting. Plus public speaking is a passion. What is […]

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Slowing down

A typical Toastmasters speech is between five and seven minutes long.  When I first started out in Toastmasters, I would write around 800 words and delivering this length of speech would take around six minutes.  Now, if I write more than 700 words for a speech, I’m in serious danger of going over the time […]

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Bragging…the introverted way

I’ve had many roles in not-for-profit organisations, including national president (chair); leading a board of volunteers from across the county.  Although I’m not exactly reticent about my love for these organisations, I don’t shout about the achievement of being National President of JCI as much as I probably should.  The more I come into contact […]

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